I've done what you did plenty of times ... worry and take something personally when it wasn't; it was my own anxiety and shaky ego (low self esteem) causing the issue. Example - other people must like me and approve of me or I won't be OK, blah, blah, blah ... totally exhausting trying to keep the outer environment (other people, work, you name it) happy so I will be OK. I finally went to CoDependents Anonymous where I learned that I am OK no matter what is going on around me (this took a while and I am not perfect at but I am much better).