I thought more about it. So in the ethics system that was taught to me, primarily by my late maternal grandmother, men who were TRUE men were supposed to be magnanimous. That would include being forgiving.

So a magnanimous man who finds out that the mother of his children whom he loves and cherishes had a one-time threesome experience before meeting him and concealed that experience in order to marry him would say the following to her:

"I feel blessed to the point of wanting to cry. I know that I would have turned you down had you told me about the threesome back then, and you and I would not have gotten married and you and I would never have had the children we did have... It was clearly a small miracle and an act of God's grace that you realized that you needed to conceal the threesome experience from me, because back then I would not have had the wisdom to see your true self if faced with the fact of a threesome, and now I do have the wisdom. It makes me shiver from fear to realize that it was such a close shave and I could have lost you and our two children would have never been born had you not had concealed the fact of the threesome from me."

So he would say that, kiss the wife, and continue living a happy life with her.

So instead GG focuses on being misled into the marriage. This is extremely petty and almost litiguous -- all those conversations about being tricked into marriage are quasi-litiguous.

While it is not a deadly sin to be petty and litiguous, the qualities of being petty and litiguous are unappealing to the point of being a turnoff for many people, I am sure.

So to sum up, GG, I invite you to view your wife's "lying" to you back then as a true moment of serendipity.