This sounds more like a self-confidence issue on your part, CG. I agree she should have been open about her past activities, especially knowing how you feel about sexuality to begin with. This is apparently a sore subject for you and she should have seen that and been open from the start. If you were more comfortable with yourself, she would not have needed to divulge such info as it would have been a non-issue. Right now, she needs to deal with her rape trauma so she does not feel like 'damaged goods' as so many of us rape victims have a tendency to do. Dealing with your hurt feelings over being deceived over a sexual experimentation from over 14 years ago does nothing to help her heal either. Remember, her past is hers not yours. I hope you both get the help you need.