I think most "normal" people can't understand because they have a limit on how sad they feel and it is usually proportional to what is going on at the time.
To relate to someone that has never experienced depression it is like then seeing thief favorite dog maul thier wife and grandma then they had to put it down old yelled style, and that is just how you feel when you finally get enough fortitude to get juror bed. Then you have to go through anyothet day, as if the previous one wasn't soul shattering enough. This is enough to make you even question why bother?
For better or for worse most people don't get that. I think in all it is a good thing because it mean the world as a whole isn't full of dread and despair, but it adds to the isolation and lack of understanding by the people we interact with everyday. I wish the world was more aware of the difficulties of depressionand the struggle to function. Yes it gets better with treatment and making positive improvements in your life, but that provide little comfort when you are feeling the worst of it.
I wish people had more compashion and empathy towards depression and say something like "i'm sorry things are so bad for you, but I still care about you". I think too many people get thier feelings invalidated or disregaured and it leads to a lot of anger for the recipient of that. Anger mostly at themselves because they can't feel happy or normal and enjoy life like most people can. There have been many times I have just hated myself for having depression. It's nothing I can change by hating myself or punishing myself. Eventually I just had to accept that it is an illness that I have to manage. There are good days and bad days and I have to reckonize when things are getting bad and question why and how I feel about them. Easier said than down and for a.long time I just accepted a lot of feelings as facts. Feelings and emmotions are usually valid, but not always true and it takes some work to look at them and change.
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