You might be better off ending things and moving on to a more respectful releationship. If you insist on staying then you need to stand up for yourself. There shouldn't be a double standard and if you get aggressive or mean to you, you have the right to tell him to stop or leave. The longer his behaivor goes on and unchecked the worse it will get. Controlling people and abusive people aren't too different and you may find yourself in a very unhelthy releationship if you continue to get yourself walked over. You deserve the same respect and human dignity he does, and him yelling at you over one text is excessive and throws a red flag to me.

Take care of yourself and remember you have the same rights and value as he does. Don't forget yourself.