MUE... I don't want to kick you when you are down so if you are not in the right frame of mind don't read below....

I'm saying this not as an accusation or even because its my opinion (cause I've had some problems with your T in the past) but is there any truth to what T was saying?

I don't know you or your T or your situation but I've had somethings go on with xT and 8 months later with time, space and a more open mind, I can see some of it was my own issues. Do you think you are trying to punish T and then by default your group because you weren't strong enough to stand up to him and say you didn't want to discuss your issue in group?