Did T say in what way you were being harmful, critical, judgmental etc.? (Quite the list of adjectives he concocted there!)

I just don't think I could look him in the eye either Mue and I think I probably would've shut down if I were you. You were very brave. My T has shut me down a time or two, but she always comes around, apologizes and sees her part in what the problem was so we've been able to repair what harm has been done.

Sounds like your T values "his" group over you. That would tick me off big time.