I find it interesting how we fear change but change happens no matter what. We can't stop change. Learning how to welcome and embrace change is a good goal. Much better than learning how to endure it.

I think if we examine where our fear originates when it relates to change, we might be better able to adjust. What IS the fear exactly?

Do we believe unconsciously that change will lead to death? I remember once when my T was leaving on vacation when I was so attached to her and my emotions were out of whack, I realized that my emotional self believed I might die if she wasn't available to me.

Could there be something so primal in our subconscious that could affect our emotions so strongly? Maybe. Maybe not.

I like to dig deep and deeper to try to find core and possibly archetypal explanations for my painful emotions (and pleasant emotions also).

Existential angst can explain a lot. Simple solutions not readily available though.