I feel so horribly for your friend buttrfli. I lost my son in a messy divorce, I guess I should say I let him go, there was so much upset and he needed peace so I bowed out. It hurts like you know what. Im so sorry for your friend, she will need a lot of strength and love to get through this and it is possibly the hardest thing she may ever endure, I dont know, but its a biggie. I will pray for her to not lose any bit of the love she feels for her daughter though it might feel like pure torture right now. In absence of the one we love, our love can feel so tormenting. but may the love she feels for her daughter also be the love she gives to herself right now. Her daughter needs her in so many ways and even if she cant be with her at all times, the love she feels is the love that will make her stronger in the long run. Tell her to never give up!