That idea has me feeling so heartbroken. Shortly after marriage counseling ended and I pushed through getting divorced, I witnessed an event that triggered a huge amount of flashbacks for me. I went in to T's office (this was within the first few months of doing individual therapy with him after him being our MC for a very short time) and dumped a lot of my sordid past on him that I was being flooded with.

He told me that we would be working on these issues for a long time and never once did he let on that he wasn't capable or interested in handling it.

I honestly believe that if I just stay compliant and never challenge him or question him, things would be fine. That just doesn't seem like a healthful thing to do.

I wish I would've known this before investing 4 years with him, during which time I lost my my marriage, my friends, some of my family, my job - leaving me dependent on him for emotional support.

FML