Thanks, my PC friends.

I am really hoping I can approach T in a way where he'd be willing to really take a look at himself and see how his actions are affecting me. I don't know how to do that without pointing out real examples - and it seems that those examples are what sets him off. He accuses me of being critical when I am merely repeating statements that he's made. He accuses me of provoking him when I am trying to address a really serious roadblock in our relationship. He accuses me of taking things out of context when I tell him word for word what was said.

I bet if I told him I recorded our phone conversation, he would terminate me right then and there - and tell me that I am threatening him or trying to set him up to hurt him legally or some bs like that.

I am not doing any of that. I just want to work through this so I can get back to a place of feeling safe enough with him to do the hard work.

It's sad that I have to figure out how to delicately approach my own T. I thought I was the client and he was the professional.