Hey..Big Mama..! I think this is a noble thing that you are trying to do for you and your husband..I have been in your situation and with men in general, I have found, that they cannot understand our side of this thing..Most of them get mad, some get sad, others feel betrayed, etc..there is no easy way to tell anyone something like what you have gone through..May God give you the strength, the words, the ability, to work through this with your husband...just reach down deep to get your help from the Lord..I know you can do this............xoxoxoxoxo Squaw