Another major irony.....

He posted the following on our group notes which directly speaks to what I am experiencing with him - and what he's basically refusing to see in himself. Go figure.

"Sometimes others find our behavior familiar, even comforting, while other times it touches off our most guarded vulnerabilities. Sometimes we see others mirroring what we do and we may have a strong adverse reaction to it, not realizing we aren’t liking this within ourselves....It was also pointed out tonight how our work can directly conflict with the work of another, both people feeling strongly about what they need and slighted by another who is not willing or able to provide it. In most instances, we receive patience from others if we seem curious and interested in what they need from us, even more acceptance if we can own our resistance to the other’s needs. Our instinct is often to blame the other for the perceived threat and out springs our protective mechanisms, many of which are outdated and ineffective for maintaining contact."