Life makes so many of us move around and take many paths. Life stability is not very strong in this economy and most people are juggling many responsibilities and challenges that cause us to move, change plans, etc. It is more difficult to keep roots now. My father's career had us moving often and now my own life's challenges have made me move from time to time. I am 48 in three weeks and my sons are moving on now and I may have to move again to downsize now that I will be alone.

People who are single/divorced/widowed in this age range have been through some life struggles and each person brings packages of experiences with them and they are pretty specific about what lifestyle they seek and what habits they have. Sex drive changes. Serious romance may no longer be comfortable for some people, like myself. I seek a friend as much as I like my private quiet time. I am an introvert and it is difficult to find other introverts because they are also usually solitary people lol

I ws bullied in my youth and I do carry some social fears with me from those struggles in life. I am trying to face them now and learn to fight the urge to see myself as a constant victim in society. I find myself thinking that way much too often. By seeing myself as a victim in society, I avoid interaction to avoid getting hurt and I seek fault in the system which triggers anger in me and causes depression. I have to beat the victim image I have created for myself or I will drown myself in my own fears. Self esteem plays a part in it also. It is difficult to see my abilities in myself and yet when I get angry, playing the victim, I blame others for not seeing my talents. When my counsellor asks me what talents I expect them to see in me, I cannot answer that. I have to see my own talents before I can show them off to others.