I recommend two little paperbacks for starters: "Forgiving and Moving On" and "Keep It
Simple".

It's difficult for me to say much more because the only really successful route for me
in life to follow was not a religious route, but a spiritual route. The Hazeldon Foundation
publishes some excellent reading material on self-improvement that might help give
you an insight into what spiritual life is all about.

I think what you're asking for is inner peace. One of the strongest things we have to
learn is that we need to live by our deepest inner principles. Doing so tends to ease
a lot of the stress of life. And that's a big part of feeling frustrated.

Reading about how other people manage in life gives insight into our own problems... at
least for me it did. One person here noted one day that she looked into the mirror and said to herself: "there's your problem right there". For me, the only route to follow after that had to be a spiritual approach to living--not a religious one--a spiritual one.

Try reading Emmet Fox's paperback called "Around the Year With Emmet Fox". He
was a brilliant writer on the power of positive thinking and its role in spriitual life. One
thing he points out is that there isn't any therapy in psychiatry that can be more
helpful than prayer life. Even if you can't believe in spirituality now, you might learn
it through reading his daily thoughts.

I wish you every good effort in learning to love yourself and that, in my view, is the single
most important gift we can give ourselves.