Hi, I'm not sure if this should go in the Sex or SI forum. First off, let me say I do not refer to abuse of any kind in this topic. This is me speaking from a past experience, which was a loving relationship.

I was with someone who understood that I struggle not to self-harm, and she accepted me and was supportive of both my past and my present decision to stop. However, when we had sex I noticed that sometimes I would scratch myself or bite myself really hard. I would draw blood on accident. I was never aroused by my injuring or blood, but I didn't have the usual thoughts leading up to SI.

Sometimes it was hard to let her know when my mindset had shifted from pleasure to punishment/feeling out of control because I would suddenly just start crying. I know about safe words but we had never set one up (mistake) and at times I felt guilty for having to stop.

However I can barely find any information about this on the net, so I want to ask your thoughts, experiences, opinions.

-Have you ever heard of injuring during sex not part of BDSM/blood-play and not always about the SI? Why do you think someone feels the urge to hurt themselves in sex if they gain no pleasure from it?

-Is this unique only to self-injurers or do other people do this too?

-What may help a partner of someone who SI's, and also what may be helpful for the SI'er?

By the way, I'm doing great right now Sorry this was so long haha