I was not able to grasp the reason for the joint decision to have an exclusive relationship. Still, the quality of "shooting the opinions of others down" will not go away - it is part of a human core unless one really tries hard to change the core. The lack of ability to tell how to touch others in ways that do not make them feel uncomfortable is unlikely to go away either and although you can definitely be commended for not wanting to teach him that because you do not want to be controlling, a separate issue is that, by and large, you cannot TEACH this ability because it is intuitive.

And there is a whole hosts of other concerns.