Adam, I don't know where we learn this. I do this to. I assume it has to do w/ upbringing as a child. I keep everyone at arms legnth and I keep my true feelings to my self. In a crowd I mingle but don't speak to a lot of people. No one speaks to me either. On the rare occasion that I do hit it off well w/ someone it is more of "eeek sorry I asked" kinda vibe I get from folks.

To answer your Question I have no idea where we get this, or how to change it. Sorry. The above is just what I do. It sounds kinda similar to what you do to. But here it appears neither of us are like that. Very strange indeed.