Thanks, Murray.

My gut tells me that I am being harmed. But I have been known to perceive harm when there is none...and I've been known to not sense harm when I am in a harmful situation. So, it's difficult to trust my feelings.

The validation that I got from xgrpcoT was incredibly valuable as her sharing of her experience directly paralleled what I've been going through with him. It helped me understand that I'm not just creating all of this in my own mind. Knowing that this is a behavioral pattern with T when he comes up against this challenge is a relief because I can more clearly see what he's doing and not take ownership of his stuff.

At the same time, if others have been unable to help him see it...and he hasn't done anything to work through this issue...and for cryin outloud, he's a T that advocates for better communication...I have very little hope that I will be successful. But I can't sit back and let it happen either.