Hermit, Thanks for the instead of the usual hug. Virtual or not doesn't cause an issue. Real life ones certinly do.

Adam, You are so right in everything you said. I guess I need to figure out a way to talk to my H. I am not used to talking to him. I am at a crumble and fall apart point in my life right now. Hormones, nerves, cuting back on meds, life , who knows why. I as sharing this w/ T tomorrow. Hopefully she will have insight on how to communicate this.