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Originally Posted by hamster-bamster
ArmyGirl,
Since she is an accountant and is really dedicated to her job, you have two problems rather than one. One problem is the one you reported - hours. The other problem is that her work sucks her in, and, most likely, she keeps thinking about the work when she is off work, and, as a result, she is basically working in all her waking hours in terms of how her work has a grip on her brain.
I now have a boring job, which is bad, but I appreciate that the boring and repetitive job has no grip on my mind - when I am off work, I never think of work. Every evening I send myself a message with the issues I need to raise next morning (we have a conference call in which people from various locations nationwide call in and we discuss issues and escalations) and then I forget about them. In the past I had jobs that were not boring, but that necessitated my thinking about my projects virtually 24/7 - was it hard! So your partner probably cannot just call it a day each evening, send herself a message for next morning, and forget - she has clients, projects, etc. so she is probably pondering some issues and concerns in her mind when she is off work, technically.
This can get really difficult because she may not be fully available to you EVEN when she is physically present in the room with you.
Does it sound like the real situation with her or am I off?
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That describes me. I think way to much, and I don't let the work go. My profession is engineering and I am constantly trying to analyze and figure things out. It takes effort to let it go. I take it that being an accounted she is a very punctual and task orientated person. She likes to be on time, get things done promptly and take on a lot of responsibilities?
Try to have her make you part of her schedule. I don't mean that releationships should have a time base or say I need to spend X hour with my SO. Just talk to her and let her know you want some time to spend together. Hopefully she listens to you and you both get to spend some time together and enjoy eachothers company and activities together.