Yea I know the feeling I used to feel like people were just expecting me to do things for them until a therapist pointed out to me things like - did the person that I did something for ask me to do that thing for them? the answer was no I just went out and did it. Then my therapist told me t hat ethically, morally and legally when someone just goes out and does things for another person that thing is considered a gift not requiring pay backs and so on. So then anytime I wanted to do something for someone else and I knew that it was something that I would need to be paid back for I would discuss doing that for the person with the person. Including if I needed to be paid back. most of the time I tell my friends and neighbors 'Hey how about if I do this for you?" and they let me know if it is ok. Other times I say something like - if you would like I can go get you the flea shampoo for your cat but I will need to be paid back in time to pay my bills on this date would you be able to do that and does this sound ok to you? Sometimes we end up in a barter type situation where I will do something for them and later on that month they will do something for me like one time I bought my neighber some cat shampoo and so she towards the end of the month bought my cat some food.

Thanks to that therapist explaining things to me about what is considered a gift and what is considered a loan I no longer get into frustrating situations where I just go out and do things for others and then feel bad because they didn't pay me back. Now its clear to me and those I encounter when what I do is a loan and when what I do is just because I want to gift kind of thing.