Hello new to this board and maybe someone could give me some advice on my teen daughter who is getting out of control. Just the other day I found out my daughter cut school with her boyfriend (he is gonna be 21 next month,which Ill get into the boyfriend issue in a minute) I had to borrow daughters cell phone for the day,as my cell phone was going to be shut off the payment was due ,(it was a matter of when I got paid ,i would pay bill following day ) well anyway daughter figured that she could get away with this cause I wouldnt receive the high school automated message to my phone saying she was absent that day,well to her surprise my phone was still on and i received the school absent message. I was furious! she finally told me a story as to why she didnt go to school ,which of coarse was a lie,I grounded her for this weekend . So I had her phone and the boyfriend texts her saying ,oh u ok? well I texted him back and told him I knew what they pulled off and that I was finished with him ,and since he takes her to and from school thats the only time hes gonna drive off my street with her ,weekend they are gonna sit at my house and thats it. he text back oh ok. she met him when she was 15 and he was 19,i was really upset,he is too old for her its been drama in the beginning with this guy,so things seemed to calm down , I had him over to my house told him how I felt about this dating and about his age,my theory is she is gonna go behind my back with him anyway so I figured I would kinda get to know him,which I tried to b fair with him,but deep down there was something about him I did not like at all ,I have had anonymous messages sent to my facebook account ,saying that they were friends with him and warned me to get daughter away from him. well tried to do that ,pushed them closer ,recently found out from my older daughter that this guy is insulting to her,is controlling and he is very charming in front of me,but i knew this anyway. I hate this guys guts and he lies alot for the sake of lieing
, ,now things between me and boyfriend were fine for awhile,were I trusted him to a point with daughter, now she cuts school and he is involved,it totally turned me off again with him,he will never be a good influence around my daughter,what and how do I handle this ,did I handle this the right way,as to him coming to my house to see her only,hopefully this will get rid of him soon,sorry this is so long.