Well I just got back from T. I am so relived I went. We talked about things and I showed her the letter I was working on. She wants to start seeing my H more on a individual basis instead of just me and couples every now and again. Me feeling guilty for how he feels is counter productive. He has a process he needs to go threw as well to live with what I have told him. I have had 22+ years to set with what has happened to me and he has had 2 months to sift threw the fact that someone abused his wife and stole a gift from her and from him as well. And he was not ever there.

He goes Tuesday and I go Thursday. Now we just gotta figure out how to pay for this. T says she will give us a price break. We are trying to make our marriage better not worse by struggling w/ money.