I am a Nanny and I care for a family that has a 6yr old boy, a 9 yr old boy, and an 11 yr old Girl. THe girl has developed an attitude beyond what I have experienced before. I know its her age, but its more than that. She likes to instigate any and all those around her to start an argument. I was raised to treat adults with respect and that the Adult is the boss. She doesn't follow those values. I am very Frustrated and Don't know what to do, and how to handle it myself. The mother is trying to get her help with a Psych but she is refusing to go because her biological father told her she doesn't have to...The woman whom she went to one time described her as a "red" personality. I am one foot out the door but have been with this family since the 11 year old was 2. I am the only consistent person she has had. I need to take care of my own psychological well being as well but I just have this habit of worrying about those around me more than myself. I am having a very difficult time trying to deal with this.