I don't know how many of you read my blog post in the thread titled Falling Apart but there's a part two.

So my sister had planned to go out of town for a church thing with her two oldest children and to leave her youngest with a friend (which I thought was messed up - I just figured she'd stay here. She's only five and ever stayed the night with me and two nights is a long time when you are little.) Anyway, this morning as she was packing up she texts me that her youngest daughter puked. Then she asked if I would keep her. I said no. And that basically ended our relationship. I have three children and two grown men who live here. It's not just me. That's exposing 5 people to a stomach virus that her friend's kids have already had! That's where my niece picked it up (and she's aware of this). Then she tries to tell me that if she doesn't go that my oldest daughter can't go cause she's driving her. I had to double check on that one and yep - there were three minivans going with plenty of room for my sister my kid and her two kids to ride. So I text my sister telling her there is room for her kids even if she can't go, trying to help in any way I could ya know. She replied F*** you! I was baffled.

Everyone has been there, having a sick kid, sometimes you just have to sit things out because it's part of being a parent, kids get sick and sometimes we miss out on things. But instead of taking care of her responsibility to her child she tells me that my niece was crying for me (instead of her friend) and I told her no. She tells me how she wishes that just once she could count on me to be there for her like she is ALWAYS there for me. She tells me that she's the only reason my daughter is going to the event (because she told me about it). And it just goes on and on. I was supposed to let out&in and feed her dog while she is gone. I told her she needed to make other arrangements for her dog. She asked, "Are you kidding me?" I told her that she wouldn't have said F*** you to anyone else if they said no to keeping her vomiting child. And I didn't appreciate that sh**.

I told her that her daughter was crying for me because she wanted her mother who was leaving her while she was sick and instead of being a grown up and taking care of her child she was trying to guilt me and make me feel bad. It was more than I could stomach when she texted "We're done." Literally, I pulled over and puked I was crying so hard. I can count on one hand how many times I've said no to babysitting her kids and it's only because I had plans or they were sick. I feel awful about all of this especially because she is moving away soon and this just isn't how I thought things would be. If I'd just said yes to keeping her this never would have happened. But my sister is like this, she just hasn't gone off on me in a while - I guess cause I was saying yes. This is total BS and I have been crying ALL DAY LONG.

I did apologize to her because I felt bad about the whole situation. Her husband just left yesterday to go to his new job in another state and is staying with my mother until he finds them a place. So she doesn't have many options for childcare. I said I was sorry, but that just didn't matter. I feel like I've opened Pandora's Box.