My wife and I have been married for 3 years. When we met we were both very sexual. We both had reputations for being very sexually active but we found each other and committed ourselves to one another. Over the past couple of years my wife has been becoming less and less physical with me. I can't remember when the last time she wanted to kiss me or be intimate in any was. It's been a huge blow to my self esteem and even though it's made me feel so worthless I've went along with it and acted like everything is fine. She knows exactly how I feel and we've talked about it a few times. Her response is always that she doesn't have any desire to be intimate with me and she really dislikes it so much that she can't force herself to. She says she loves me more than anything but isn't turned on at all by me. I'm only 33 and she's 30 so I feel like we're way too young to be living like this. Also, I know that if we split up that she would gladly have sex with new people that she went out with, it's just the way she is and was raised. I'm just so frustrated because I love her more than anything and could never live without her, but cant ignore the natural feelings that are torturing me all day everyday. I feel like she doesn't care about hurting me at all. I could never tell her that I don't find her attractive, because I really do love her that much. It even seems to me like she got so use to going out and meeting new guys for so many years that now she thinks you have to have that, turned on by something new, feeling or lust to have sex. As awful as it sounds, I would rather not live in a relationship with someone who doesn't care enough about me that they could force their self to at least kiss me and make me feel wanted. Before this I was so confident and productive but since she told me that she doesn't find me attractive at all I've lost my self confidence, I can't get anything done, it seems like people don't like me anymore, and my whole life just seems worthless.