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Originally Posted by aintworthlivin
Before this I was so confident and productive but since she told me that she doesn't find me attractive at all I've lost my self confidence, I can't get anything done, it seems like people don't like me anymore, and my whole life just seems worthless.
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While she is clearly in the wrong (see my response on your own thread), you are also somewhat wrong in that you make your...
- confidence
- productivity
- self-esteem
- feeling that your life is worth living
... completely dependent on what one woman, an isolated case, finds attractive.
It is understandable, for sure - you would want your wife to be attracted to you - but still, all of those important things listed above should not be dependent on a whim of one person.
There are many ways to proceed, in practical terms, but first, before taking any practical steps, you should adjust the switches in your brain that make your productivity depend on what it now depends on. It is a purely mental, cognitive exercise and you are fully able to do it all on your own because you would be working with your mind and your mind alone. However, if you find yourself unable to adjust the switches in your brain by yourself, you may want to engage a professional therapist to get help.
I suggest that you go through that mental exercise first, before taking any practical steps that would engage anybody other than you.