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08:40 PM

Hey Ms Beans,
I'm so sorry your going through all that S*it!
From one female to another. I think your great.
Okay on the men: They're dogs. I'll probably offend the men but its the truth.
I've been around the block and its the case. I've also been sexually harassed all through my younger adult days and it bothered me so much that its traumatized me!
Your man that left? HE has the problem not you. So just let him go then move on with your life.
Now here is what I've learned and it took many years. Speak up & be assertive about HOW your supposed to be treated! If you get the other female haters giving you the mad dog or mean mug stare just say to yourself "To Hell with them" and keep on doing what your doing. Ignore those .....B******'s .
You'll need to love yourself Beautiful & all! It's a blessing not a curse. Love, love yourself girlfriend. But refuse to be sexually objectified! Stand tall, shoulders back, head held high.
Try getting into activities that boost your self esteem.
If I were you my friend I'd learn some self defense ....IMMEDIATELY! Krav Maga, Karate, something. Having dealt with men they tend to be LESS THAN a gentlemen!
And don't ever let me hear that you want to damage your face! Oh Hell No!
I like beautiful women. Of course I'm a gay woman. I hate to say it most straight women have problems. If I were to address an auditorium of straight women I would say "ladies quit hating on each other" "Other women aren't the enemy, you are"
Unfortunately that's one of the 7 deadly sins ENVY always rears its ugly head doesn't it?
Make it a point every day you wake up that you are you & your not going to change for anyone! Be confident in who you are. You just have to be.
And perhaps you might try gay men friends they can be the best! I had some back in my going out days. Unfortunately I lost a good majority of them to disease, drug addiction, and most painfully suicide. One of many reasons I'm on here.
I hope what I said helps.
Hope your not pissed with me, but I wouldn't be doing you any service by not being forthright. I'm sure that there are some NICE men.....I guess. But be careful & selective and stand your ground. You need to put men that may have interest in you under the microscope! But be by yourself for awhile... maybe talk to a counselor about whats going on.
Alright that's it for now.
Let me know how your doing Sister!
Oh I'm American, what the heck is Stones? Does that equate to American pounds on the scale? Are you from the U.K.? I once remember catching that phrase on that British show Absolutely Fabulous.