I try to be very careful. I trust my instincts, I watch how consistent a person is, over time. A true friend extends themselves to you, they meet you halfway; and they do what they say they're gonna do. A true friend is dependable. And, in real life, it's pretty hard to get a fake past me. My antennae are working overtime, especially for the last little while.

It's not to say that I've never been taken-in, or hurt. I definitely have. But after awhile, you do become more selective. And you develop a feel for people. Watch for signs and big warnings. Watch for things that could present a big trigger for you.

For instance, I don't get on well with people who are always needing the spotlight, always needing to be center stage. I also don't like loud or pushy people. Another big problem for me is folks who are argumentative, or who always need to get the last word in. I don't even have to waste a moment's time on them because I know there will never be too much to build on, with them. I also cannot build a relationship with anyone who tells me a lie. And people do, it blows my mind, but they try it. Nope, not the way to get anywhere with me.

I give people only so much trust. And then, if they don't let me down, if they prove they are how they represent themselves, I give them more chances. Eventually, it becomes clear who you can & cannot trust.

Sometimes, a person might be wonderful & lovely in many ways---but perhaps they're not good with money. Or watching your cat while you're out of town. So, be their friend---but DO NOT trust them with money, or letting them check in on the cat. Stuff like that.

There are all levels and degrees of friendship. You figure it out as you go.