divorceddad,

I can relate. It is hard to know when the right time is to introduce your kids, and there is that fear: what if things don't work out?

After about 1 year with my bf, I let my girls meet him. We kept time spent together for another year pretty brief and without much show of affection. We slowly built up from there. {We've been together for about 4 years now} My girls love my bf and enjoy his company very much, yet I still feel afraid to get any more serious and I still fear how they'd react if we were to go separate ways.

Personally, I take that as a signal that I'm really not ready for another deep commitment yet either. Yes, I do love my bf, but I am holding back a bit to protect myself. That's my perspective anyway.