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Originally Posted by jimi...
It really hurts being pointed out as someone no one can trust, or someone who doesn't feel what they say they feel. It's so weird how it can mess someone up EVEN in the cases the patient know they are right. And I actually wonder if their way really works with those who really have BPD. I mean sure, you have to set boundaries but being mean and callous how does that help? Meh...
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I often wonder about BPD and the people who have it.
My psychiatrist mentioned BPD is a misused and overused diagnosis. I think this approach is a generalization, because it doesn't form a representative sample of the disorder, since all "difficult" and "defiant" clients with and without a PD are grouped together.
If BPD clients are respected and heard, their prognosis might actually improve. If one repeatedly uses the Emergency Department, professionals should address the issue with respect, rather than belittling them with inane comments, such as "frequent flyer." People with BPD are people like the rest of us. They have feelings and deserve to be treated with respect.
Unfortunately, it is so much easier for professionals to deny appropriate care to a difficult patient, than to take the time to listen and make a difference. Often, being heard is all it takes. It is vital for the formation of a therapeutic alliance and progress. How is someone supposed to improve if they are not being heard and respected?
The psychiatrist who apologized told me, "All you wanted was to be heard." She was absolutely correct.
After I was diagnosed with AS, I have been much more willing to discuss my problems. Why? I know, I will be heard and not assumed. As a result, I have noticed for the first time ever, progress in therapy and changes in me. My family has even noticed.