There is always a reason. A real reason, retardation doesn't qualify as a legitimate reason.

How about, meds. Has she added any medicines in the past years. Has there been a a trauma of any type. Has there been any abuse in her past or present. I am proof that women don't all come equiped w/ sex drives. Guys laugh and say things about there wives being bought and paid for (meaning now you are married) so they don't have to behave anymore. Women can be this way to. Having sex to keep you around until they get married. Then sex is over with. Unfortunately I can relate to some of what you wife may interpret as gross. I have that issue. Wet, slimy, sweaty, smelly, to much closeness. More time spend to clean up then to have sex in the first place. Those are my hang ups any way.

Loss of sex drive by no means loss of love. I love my H. But my sex drive is dead. The meds killed it. But it was never great to begin with. A regular T can help with this or a sex T. My regular T is working on this right now. I do have trauma's that have affected me. But the sexual issues I have began before the trauma's and have lots to do w/ upbringing. (I think?)

It is something yall need to talk threw or have a T help you to be open and feel safe enough to discuss anything. A T to help her w/ any underling issue she may not want to share, even if it is something that she thinks is no bit deal. A gyno. visit might not be the worst place in the world to start. A hormonal imbalance, an issue w/ pain, fear of pregnancy, or other health issue.A sex T might be necessary if you are both interested in going that route.