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Originally Posted by Scotgirl012
So true! I know that I have to act like I feel I deserve some good in my life, in order for my brain to let me believe it, even for a little while. I have done some really bad sht in my life, and my mental health crap just won't let me live it down! I know I can't change it, but I still can punish myself for it today.
When I read a post like yours, with good feelings and actions, I feel like I can let go of so e of this stuff, too. I agree, learning to see the positive is where we start to heal from some of this crap. Typical people just don't get it.
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Well even above feeling like you deserve the good, is that it is there. Regardless of even if you didn't deserve something.. Say someone does a good deed and helps you, even if you did nothing to deserve it, it is still a good thing done for you. We tend to think that if we dont' deserve something - especially good, we shouldn't even have the right to acknowledge it is good - as if this makes it ok, as if denying that it happened or that it's something positive changes it somehow. it doesn't. it's still a positive event, deed, or what not that has happened and we have to stop ourselves from defeating it so it has no effect on us.
I hope you have some better days coming as I have been having and that you're able to get out of the muck, whatever it is right now. Feel free to friend me and pm me anytime, I'm here quite often so get my pms pretty regularly.