I'm definitely overloaded, that much I know for sure. Luckily, I've been able to lighten that load by pull out of a home purchase last night. I'm also about to move out of state for my job. The first thing my wife tells me this morning is that she's no longer looking forward to moving. We've been living apart for the last 6 months and are about to be living together again, but she can't look forward to that without us buying a house... I don't know if I'm being oversensitive or self centered, but that hurts. I tell her this and she gets mad at me because she tells me throughout the week that she misses me and asks me why I can't concentrate on that. She said some really hurtful stuff last night when I told her the house purchase was a bad idea right now that just echoes in my head and I just don't feel like I can trust he anymore. I feel more like I'm just her source of security and cash rather than her husband. Or maybe that's the same thing in her head.