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Originally Posted by TreeintheWind
 I love Sum 41--one of the bands i put on to get myself out of a funk.
Thanks for sharing your triumphs s4ndm4n that's pretty awesome!
I know for me, the bill thing.. well i've always been the one to take care of it for a good 20 years now, and still it is a struggle each month to make myself pay them. 1) i overspend and 2) the confrontation? or.. something? of just DOING it can often feel immobilizing. But i too am now finally getting things on track with them. (ive always paid, but not always very well, and DID have many things cut off)
Any time we take that step to actively DOING something to carry us into a better space it feels so good. such a freaking relief! (now i just need to stop wasting money in virtual worlds) |
Well I can and have done that before. Having full responsibility of the kids has helped to ground me but aside from that I've decided that if I spend money I want it to be guilt free. Thing is what helps is that I think about if I take care of all the other stuff first - bills etc and then spend on me only minus the bills, well.. I don't have the overwhelming stress of knowing I spent too much over what I had and can't pay my bills. It helps me to have that perspective and as time has gone on and I've been paying things regularly first, it's gotten to where I really feel good about it. It feels good to actually just put them aside each check and be done with it. It's getting over the initial stage of temptation to just go out and spend first.
I've also come to the realization that if I have what I need (food, water, shelter, etc... ) and my kids are taken care of, then really everything else is fluff. I don't "need" anything beyond all that. So when I have less and can't
spend like I want to, I can easily let that go. I know I have a job and more will come and other weeks it will be better.
I'm rambling now though.