I'm attracted to dominating men, but there is a fine line between dominance and abusive. I spent alot of time in abusive relationships because i thought 'Wow, he must love me SO much to get SO mad about this, or that.. He must love me SO much to not want me to look at any other men'.
However that sort of jealousy usually comes from a place of weakness or damage.
One feels weak, and powerless within themself, so one takes power from those around him/her. One feels out of control and so he/she tries to control the situation he/she is in, with no variables.
I really think that BPD is more common that we realize.