Hamster, you are correct, no woman should call a man a name like that, nor should a man call a woman a name. I was not making refrence to the name calling. I was making refrences to the lack of desire, or the lack or wanting to have sex.

I at one time believe it or not did have regular sex w/ my H. It was not always this way. Before marriage h was led to believe I liked sex very much. But then I was just afraid to say no. After marriage the first few years were great. I didn't like to have sex but I did want to be a good wife, so we did it frequently. It was after the first child that I didn't feel the need to put out to keep H around. A child tied us together. Then I didn;t feel as strong of a need to be with my H sexually. Lack of sleep w/ new babies do that, as do living w/ toddlers. Plus I saw that having sex w/ him just to make him happy was not very productive.

Do not presume I was always not wanting of sex, though I do have a low sex drive and always have.