Sorry if this isn't what you want to hear, but I think expecting your T to telepathically determine the 'right' questions is passive aggressive and unfair on your T. One person's right question is another person's wrong one. If my T asked if I felt like hurting myself, I would potentially twist that and experience it as: my T thinks I should hurt myself/ T wants me to hurt myself.

You have a responsibility to help your T to help you, and to communicate your needs. It may seem obvious to you that you need a T who asks if you feel suicidal and doesn't let you get away with not talking. But everyone is different. I hate being asked if I'm suicidal. I hate feeling pressured to talk. Some people hate to be offered tissues; I am devastated if my T doesn't offer them. There is no one 'right' approach.

If you've asked your T to do these things and had no change, that's one thing. But if you just expect them to work out what you need, you'll have the same issues with any T. As to other treatments and plans, are you ready for these? Have you asked your T any straightforward questions about it?