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shortandcute · 02:48 PM

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Originally Posted by ashpile

I just think that there are "professional loon magnets"... People who repeatedly end up with BPD partners... it IS a fact...
There's GOT to be a reason!
I don't think that we are some sort of a disease on the world - some people do choose us because we are brilliant and loving and easy to please and able to adore someone to the extent a non-BPD person isn't capable of.

My suggestion is that we might be a natural match for a narcissists...?

Please note... I believe that whatever crap (personality traits) we carry we are all ABLE to learn to develop proper, satisfying, devoted relationships.

I can totally see what you're saying! Of course, I'm not an expert, but I can see how what you're saying could be right on. Some people seem to attract other certain people. I know for me, I'm not really 100% sure if anyone I was dating was narcisstic in particular, but just about all of them were real "needy" in some way or another--and they all needed their egos stroked. Of course, I was a perfect target because I would've done anything to have a man "love" (?) me. But then the other borderline part of me would come out--and make life hell for them. Unfortunatly, some of my friendships have been that way, also.