I agree kissing is very stimulating for me, so I can empathize with the feeling of being overwhelmed. Yes I get excited and turned on by my bf's other manual efforts at pleasuring me, but for some reason kissing always feels like it can get "out of control" very fast. Idk why, maybe its the emotional element, that closeness you feel, its different to manual stimuli.

Feeling overwhelmed is testament to the fact that you're a great kisser! So no need to worry about attraction. Also the lack of lubrication is a very common sign of stress, not lack of enjoyment, its nothing to worry about imo, because once she's ready for you, it will most certainly cease to be an issue.