Yeah. It helps to have some idea of what you want, beyond other people acknowledging you. Then evaluate yourself: are you this way for others? What kind of feedback do people give you? Because the other part of it is, even if it's stuff you don't want to hear, if you're hearing it a lot from various sources there's probably some truth to it. And if you do indeed embody things that turn people off/away, you likely won't have much luck with them until you do something to change that. And then yeah, start seeking out healthier people that treat you better. That's pretty much a bare minimum in my books.