I'm currently active duty and have orders to a new duty station, that's why we are moving. As of right now, everyone is coming along, which adds more to the mess.

As far as the intimacy, I'm just as confused as you. I get lulled into a sense of normalcy and security when I'm home, but when I'm gone, I'm quickly reminded of how miserable I can be.

I'd love to give counseling a try. I've been to therapy and I think it's helped me out, but given me good insight to my dark, deep down thoughts that haven't been great for my marriage