I've become very adept at saying 'No', even to my wife, who doesn't know how to put limits on herself, then wears herself out and gets angry at herself. You are only responsible for YOU. Friends, family, employers love to lay guilt trips so they can squeeze an extra ounce of blood from you or just manipulate you for their own selfish reasons. Rick Nelson sang, "You can't please everyone, so you've got to please yourself."

When you feel well enough to handle something, feel free to, but NEVER do something out of guilt. The only pay off for you is pain and anger.