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Originally Posted by Aiuto
So he calls and want's nothing really.I guess to check on me.I tell him I am doing great and getting better.I told him I cannot handle talking to him it makes me go into a relapse.
He argues that I can handle it!
I finally just said hey this is what I need for "me" and if you cannot respect it I do not know what to tell him with his every 2 week check up's.
I told him I have to take care of me cause I am all I got.He said sorry which is a reflection of how I came at him.
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Aside from telling him, that is makes you go into a relapse, are there specific reasons that you can say to him, that start with "I" and leave the word 'you' out of the statement?
For instance, I have been feeling emotional lately. I am under a ton of stress. I need to not have bi-weekly phone calls, that seem like they are to check up on me? I am seeing a therapist, and do not need to be checked in on? I would appreciate it, if "I" (fill in the blank, never hear from you, have at least a certain # of months from hearing from you, I call you when I am ready not the other way around, etc, etc, etc)
Of course, you could handle hearing from him, if you felt he was healthy for you, but obviously, he does trigger strong emotions from you, and that just isn't fair for you to be subjected to.
I once heard a quote a while back, 'No one can MAKE you FEEL anything, without YOUR Permission.'~Unknown
Can I be nosey, and ask, what does 'outsiders' mean? I may have missed a post?