I realize I only pointed out the negative aspects of my view and failed to mention any positive. I am actually happy for her in the sense she is becoming her 'own person' again. She has a new sense of freedom, and I am glad she is learning to be on her own and independent. I am not appalled by her actions as a single woman and understand COMPLETELY that it is very new to her since, yes, she has been married since 23.

It is the way she speaks of my father and what she is subjecting my younger sister too that upsets me. Fourteen is a pivotal age; my sister's relationship with my mother is fragile right now. I already see her holding grudges since my mother speaks about all these young guys that 'want' her and even bringing them in the house at night in front of my sister. My sister rarely wants to stay with her anymore because of all this. When I try to explain to mom that what she is spreading all over her facebook (pictures at parties weekly and sexual statuses) and reveals to my sister is what is causing the rudeness, she becomes very angry with me. I am a very passive person and am careful with the way I explain things to her; it is the fact that I am the only person revealing the truth about the situation is what makes her so angry. The same anger ensues when trying to help her out financially. She constantly complains to my brother and I that she is in extreme debt and my father is going to put her on the street. We both regard this complaint as a cry for help and both try to explain that shopping weekly and avoiding fancy dinners multiple nights a week will help save money. About a week ago she blew at me for trying to help again with extreme anger I had never seen from her before. I apologized many times for upsetting her and told her I would stop trying to advise her financially and on situations with my sister. The day after this blow-up (one that I thought would have altered our relationship for a while) she acted like nothing ever happened. I was not expecting an apology, even though I hoped for one, but was expecting a forgiveness since I had not heard back since I apologized.

Is acting like nothing happened or that I am worried about her the best solution even though it pains me and my siblings? We can only avoid these feelings for so long before they take a mental toll, especially on my sister. We want her to be happy and have fun being single as well as becoming her new self.