Its one of the worst feelings I have ever known but I think its my experience thats taught me that truly, no one will take care of me if I dont do so myself. Its a real hard realization to realize, come hell or high water, I better learn to swim or become fireproof real fast. I still want to defend everyone else though, and Im thinking over about the times I did and maybe I shouldnt have. Its not good to help others learn helplessness, but, if someone truly is helpless, thats different. Its hard to know which approach to use when someone is a stranger. Good cons can set samaritans up easily.