I think you are failing at counting your blessings and that is what is eating you from the inside out. Count your blessings - your kids are healthy, you have a roof over your head, you must be employed, you are not facing an eviction, you have enough focus and concentration to have read 6 books in a short period of time, etc.

If you do a good job counting your blessings, being thorough in that, the current situation with the wife will become smaller in your mind, as it should. It will occupy just enough space to reflect its true seriousness, which can be described as "average" on a scale of seriousness of life's problems - neither trivial nor overwhelmingly complex, but in-between.

T claims that passion has a self-multiplying quality to it, which is a fine claim, but how does the T offer to catalyze your passion-increasing process if there is no passion to start/ignite the process? Have you asked T? If T says something that does not make any sense, you should challenge T right in the consultation room.