@Phreak - Thankyou, I understand where you are coming from, however, as a person feeling unable to relate to anyone, and am often unsure how to behave, to simply conform mainly to what seems to be expected of me and my behaviour is just an easy way to kinda fit in, IYKWIM.

By NO stretch of the imagination, the people close to me know my opinions, feelings and thoughts, and I am very much my own person. I voice my opinions with others also, but for small talk, which I am CRAP at, I just try and say roughly what is expected of me since they lead it and I follow. I have no trouble standing up for myself and my beliefs if challenged or questioned. I'm no meek little girl in the corner generally speaking. But with others I don't know/understand, I just fill the expected gaps and try to be polite, tactful(hard for ME) and caring.