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Originally Posted by Arethusa
This is probably going to sound crazy but when I have kids one day I want there to be something wrong with them. I just don't want to have healthy kids. I would like to have conjoined twins or kids with dwarfism. Maybe autism or even mental retardation. Maybe cerebral palsy or organ problems.
It probably sounds really sick. I guess I just want my kids to stand out. Or maybe I just want to take care of them and be constantly reassured that they will always need me.
Am I the only one who feels this way? This is probably not normal, right? Why do I feel this way? What is wrong with me?
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no you are not alone in this...
I know a few people who want/ or make their children ill/disabled in some people its called Munchhausen by proxy. they want their kids to be sick/ill/disabled so that they (the parent) can always be the center of attention..
I also know people who have purposely fostered and adopted sick/ill/disabled/different children because they have what it takes financially, physically and mentally to care for this type of children.
there is no guarantee way of ensuring a person will have sick/ill/disabled children....some people that smoke have disabled children some people who smoke do not, some people who drink alcohol during pregnancy have special needs children others that drink while pregnant do not, even people in the same family this child may end up getting the disabled gene and that child may not..
my suggestion its one thing to ....want ....to have sick/ill/disabled or different children but the reality of caring for a special needs child is different...
if you really want to be a parent to a special needs person sign up for programs that deal with these children like ARC, big brother/big sister programs, developmental disabilities group homes, your locations foster care system...
by working with them you will be able to find out whether you have what it takes to not only keep your self together/on track, mentally and physically healthy while at the same time meeting the needs of a special needs child.
if it turns out that this is your "calling" so to speak you can start by adopting some of the many special needs children that are in foster care waiting for homes with parents that are physically, mentally and financially capable of raising them and caring for their special illnesses/disabilities.